The Fetish and Kink Dictionary With Sessions How To

This resource has been requested by the community for quite a while and many times. I am very excited to say that the fetish and kink dictionary and how they can translate into sessions is finally started and in one place. This will be a long-standing and likely forever going project that will grow and grow as time goes on!

Though this is not an exhaustive list of fetishes and kinks, it is the most commonly seen one with as many of the more niche ones as we could think of. Each fetish is going to have its own section that covers definitions, and precautions and important notes. I will also be covering fairly in-depth on how I utilize those fetishes within a session. I will be trying to cover everything from specific phrases that work well for me, how I begin the session, how I end them, and hopefully everything in between.

This resource is not my effort alone and had an amazing team behind it. I want to thank @cinanom  @Xxmikiki and Seraphina Vixen for their help in bringing this to life!

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Roleplay

Sessions featuring roleplay are very commonly seen requests. Roleplay is when participants, two or more, act out erotic fantasies. There are very many forms of roleplay such as

• Pet play – where one participant takes a pet role. This is often acted out by only making sounds the designated animal would, using leases and collars, etc. This is often rooted in dominance and submission.
• Profession play – Where one or all participants roleplay a scenario based on a profession such as teacher, therapist, nurse, etc.
• Incest play – This is considered a taboo in which boh participants role play that they are in someway related directly, be it siblings, parent, cousins, etc.
• Age play – Age play is a taboo in which one or all participants roleplay their age as under 18. This is commonly found paired with DDLG and mommy domme, though they are different in that age play is not required.
• Situational play – Where participants act out a scenario. Common examples would be strangers at a hotel bar, what happens after the first date, etc.

As with any session, you need to establish boundaries and expectations. The precautions you need to take heavily depend on the type of roleplay you are engaging in. For example in age play, incest play, and other taboo roleplay, it is important to have both parties write a disclaimer. Something in writing (DM at minimum) that states they acknowledge this is all fictional, and all parties, and characters, are over 18 years old.

Before going into any roleplay I ask for…

Homewrecking

Homewrecking is a fetish where one person attempts to seduce and take a married, or otherwise partnered, person away from their current relationship. A small warning here: this often will include degrading this other partner to one degree or another to prop yourself as the better option.

Compartmentalization skills are important If you engage in this. I specialize in this fetish and the only reason I am able to do it is because I compartmentalize it. I remind myself this is only a roleplay on my part. It also helps to remember If it weren’t me it would just be another creator, or worse a IRL affair. My heart does ache for the wives and partners, but I hold no guilt or responsibility.

To translate homewrecking into a session I start by asking the…

SPH

SPH, or small penis humiliation, involves one partner humiliating the other because of their small penis size. This is a very submissive act. Not all who enjoy SPH will have a technically smaller penis. It is still important to act as if you are disappointed. Oftentimes the more brutal and cruel you are, the more enjoyable it is for the client.

It is important to establish with your Client what their expectations and wants are. Ask If they want cruelty, or more tame humiliation it is also incredibly important to establish limits and boundaries. make sure you are aware of any words or phrases that are off limits.

When I go into SPH sessions, after age verification and limits discussions, I try and pay attention to any….

JOI

JOI, or jack off instructions, involves one partner instructing the other how to masturbate. This is a submissive act and the delivery of this kink can be very varying. I have seen this kink combined with others in single sessions more often than not. Such as roleplay + JOI, CEI + JOI, humiliation + JOI, etc. Most clients wanting a JOI will also want a cum countdown. That will be at the end of the session where you will count down until they are allowed to orgasm.

As with every session it is important to establish all details desired by the client, their limits, and their prefrances. Depending on the desired delivery style you may need to go more in depth on these. I have found my more particular clients to enjoy JOIs.

I have gone in depth on my preferred method of (performing a JOI here). If someone doesn’t want to do a…

CEI

CEI, or cum eating instructions, is a kink in which one partner instructs the other through ingesting their own ejaculation fluids. This is often a heavily submissive act, and a very common occurrence in femdom.

Once again this is a heavily Submissive act for a client. There are some steps that need to be taken to protect them from experiencing sub-drop (an intense acute drop in mood, often characterized by similar signs as depression, anxiety, or distress occurring after a submissive act). This can be helped by taking some steps before and after a session. Before a session you need to ask them what type of energy they need from you (le humiliation, encouragement, etc). Then you must know their limits and establish if a safe word is wanted. After the session, aftercare must be done. Touch base with them and how they are doing emotionally. Try to end the interaction with some form of kindness and support.

In my experience…

Financial Domination (findom/findomme)

An example of total power exchange, lifestyle, or activity in which a submissive (cash piggy, finsub, human ATM, money slave, or paypig) is required to give gifts or money to a dominant (findomme/findom, Goddess, money dom/money domme, money master/money mistress or cash master). Relationships may consist of one-off payments while others could be regular money transfers or control over a bank account with the submissive’s bank password. The relationship between the two parties often takes place solely via online communication and in a majority of cases the two never meet. Distinguishable from a sugar baby relationship to the extent that there are no expectations set in return for the money.

Sessions based around findom require extra steps and communication before beginning. You need to establish their sexual and emotional limits as always. You also must establish financial Limits as well. Don’t forget a safe word either. Note on this, Once in a session it is your responsibility to track how much has been sent. They are likely to be in an altered headspace and can easily lose track. Their financial limit stated at the beginning of the session is final. They may want to push to send more, but we have to protect their safety over padding our pockets.

I am going to address one aspect of findom that I see often that I find very concerning. It would be the aspect where Dom’s will have potential clients send tribute before anything else. That sounds fantastic. That sounds like a great way to make extra income. Here’s my question though, what are you going to do when you find out a 14-year-old sent you a tribute? Or a 17-year-old? If we are initiating communication with someone by demanding a tribute that tends to mean we have not age verified first. Age verification must come before a pay link every single time regardless of the type of session.

I am going to focus today on drain sessions…

Cuckolding 

Cuckolding is a kink where one person in a sexual pairing will engage in sexual activities with another. This often includes an aspect of humiliation. The act of cuckolding is intended to bring gratification to both partners. The partner on the receiving end of the cuckolding is often called a cuck or a cuckold. 

As this is a fetish based session it is crucial to establish expectations and limitations. Some of the clients that come to you for this will prefer an experience that leans to humiliation and degradation. Oftentimes I will see SPH tied into these sessions. Others will want that avoided no matter what. Be sure to also be providing after care. Check in with them in the last minute or two of the session if you have time or after in DMs. This check in can be as simple as a “how are ya feeling?!”. Just be sure to truly listen to their responses.

I run my cuckolding sessions with the priority of….

Mommy Domme 

Mommy Domme is a kink or fetish that is based on femdom and roleplay. The female partner will usually be the mommy domme. Though mommy-domming has similar themes to femdom, this fetish requires the dominant partner to be more attentive, gentle, and nurturing to the submissive. Though some sessions surrounding mommy dommes may include age play or regression play, that is not something that is necessary for this type of session.

This type of session will have your client in a submissive and potentially vulnerable position. As such, we must take certain precautions to help protect or maintain their mental/emotional health. Those precautions include setting limits or safe words, establishing any specifics desired, and the overall expectations. Aftercare is equally important to help your clients come back to reality.

When I go into mommy domme sessions I often refer to…

CBT

CBT, or cock and balls torture is a very submission-based kink or fetish. This fetish involves one participant instructing the other (who has male genitalia) on how to cause pain to their genitals. This is intended to bring in a blend of pain alongside pleasure, though the pain aspect should have a stronger focus.

Setting limits and a safeword in this is crucial. We need to ensure that we do not force someone to harm themselves in any way unless they have provided wholehearted consent. I also suggest having your client type out a disclaimer to protect yourself in case something unfavorable happens during the session. Then, you screenshot that disclaimer with the date and their username and age verification, then forever save that just in case. The general disclaimer I have them type is:

My name/username is ____. I am over the age of 18 and I consent to this taboo session. I understand that I am not obligated to perform any of the tasks asked of me and can end the session at any time. I understand that I am responsible for any mental, emotional, or physical damage caused.

I have a similar structure to CBT as I do Findom. I will…

Mutual (Mutual Masturbation)

Mutual, short for mutual masturbation, is when two or more partners will masturbate together. Mutual masturbation sessions tend to be filled with dirty talk. A common theme I have noticed with those who request this is the desire for us to enjoy ourselves with them. Watching us enjoy ourselves, often requested is to completion, is a huge aspect of this kink.

Mutual masturbation sessions tend to be very vanilla focused so there is less of an emergent need to establish limits, but that is still a great practice to do for every session regardless. Clarify any and all expectations for the session by asking if there is anything in particular if they enjoy. 

To conduct my mutual sessions I start by asking what they…

Edging

An edging session is one that can be done solo or with others. It includes bringing someone close to the brink of orgasming, but removing stimulation before they can. This is thought to intensify the pleasure of the final release. Edging sessions usually do end in an orgasm. In sessions with partners, and most commonly requested, one partner will be responsible for edging the other. 

Many clients who come into sessions like this may have a goal number of edges to reach, or even specific ways they want it to be conducted. Be sure to clarify all expectations on both sides. Though this is not necessarily a risky session type, establishing any limits is a good practice as always. 

When I conduct my edging sessions I always try to include

Impact Play

Impact play can either be between partners or solo. If with a partner it involves one partner hitting the other either with their body (such as hand) or other object. A solo impact play session would involve hitting oneself. The allure of impact play comes in with the theory that there is a very fine line between pleasure and pain and that pain can enhance pleasure. We will commonly see impact play be tied into many other kinks such as BDSM, CBT, femdom, etc. It is a very powerful method to bring someone into a submissive headspace, and it can be dangerous. 

Limits must be established off the bat and in depth. Ask specifics here such as ‘are there any parts of your body you don’t want to be hit?’ and ‘are there any objects you don’t want to be hit with’. Knowing these specifics not only help you protect your client, but they help you have a clear direction to go in when you start the session. Some clients are going to be looking for themselves to be the one receiving the impact, others are going to want to watch you perform solo impact play. Please consider reading a beginners guide. A quick Google search pulled up this for a start.

If someone is asking for an extreme version of this or mentions few to no limits I will have them state the same disclaimer those who request CBT do:

My name/username is ____. I am over the age of 18 and I consent to this taboo session. I understand that I am not obligated to perform any of the tasks asked of me and can end the session at any time. I understand that I am responsible for any mental, emotional, or physical damage caused.

In the case one of my sessions is impact play with me as the receiver the client will be….

Femdom

Femdom is a fetish that must include at least one of the partners being a dominant female. Femdom is short for female domination. In most cases we will see a female dominant and male submissive. When engaging in a femdom session the goal is to put the client into a submissive state. There are many ways to go ahead and do that, but the best generalized tip for this is make sure they don’t have to make a single decision. 

Femdoms sessions do include that submission as stated above so there is the important step of discussing limits with your client. Some clients are going to want a session that is humiliation and degradation focused, some will not. Be sure to  clarify expectations as well as limits to avoid any confusion before starting. This type of session also requires aftercare. Check in with your client either at the end or right after the session to make sure they are able to get out of that submissive headspace safely and gently. 

This session integration section has been graciously written by Seraphina Vixen, our resident femdom queen…

Foot Fetishism

Foot fetishism (foot fetish/foot partialism/podophilia)- sexual interest in feet. Attraction may include the shape and size of feet, soles, toes, jewelry (toe rings/anklets/etc), state of dress (barefoot, flip flops, boat shoes, ballet flats, sandals, high heels, clogs, hosiery, socked feet, etc), treatment (massaging/washing/painting toenails), odor, or sensory interaction (rubbing the foot, smelling, tickling, licking, rubbing genitals on foot a.k.a footjob). May extend to include shoes, socks, olfactophilia (odor fetishism), and tickling. Participating may be in person, virtual whether by video or pictures, or through the mail selling objects that have been in contact with feet.

• self worship- the participating in a foot fetish without a partner such as massaging or licking one’s own feet sometimes for an audience

• footjob- non-penetrative sexual practice with the feet that involves one’s feet being rubbed on a partner’s genitals in order to induce sexual excitement, stimulation, or orgasm.

Foot fetish clients very often know specifically what they want to see. I am always sure to ask them if they have any preferences, specific foot turn ons, or turn offs. Foot fetishism can very easily be combined into any roleplay, femdom, humiliation/degradation, etc. 

I am going to focus my session integration example around the concept of a client…..

Mutual Masturbation

Mutual, short for mutual masturbation is when two or more partners will masturbate together. Mutual masturbation sessions tend to be filled with dirty talk. A common theme I have noticed with those who request this is the desire for us to enjoy ourselves with them.  Watching us enjoy ourselves, often requested to completion, is a huge aspect  of this kink.

Mutual masturbation sessions tend to be very vanilla focused so there is less of an emergent need to establish limits, but that is still a great practice to do for every session regardless. Clarify any and all expectations for the session by asking if there is anything in particular if they enjoy. 

To conduct my mutual sessions I start by….

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