Buyers Perspective Part 2: What Draws Our Attention to Creators

Creators spicy Tea is by Creators, for creators, and 100% about creators. Every now and then though, it’s incredibly important that we get the point of view and perspective from our audience and our clients. Creators spicy tea has partnered with r/FetishBuyersCommunity to reach out and get that buyers perspective from active content purchasing members of the adult content community. We also want to thank every single one of the many many purchasers who engaged and participated in this. We really hope that these interviews and the responses brought by our audience, by our customers, can help us better develop our strategies, and better understand our clientele. 

All participants will be remaining anonymous. All participants were from Reddit, and this resource is somewhat heavily focused on the direct selling corner of the industry. We will be going question by question with all of the responses provided. Many responses were similar and may be summarized or grouped together. This was a very large and very highly interacted with resource, so it will be coming out in portions. The very many answers will be summarized in this resource. But they can be found in full here. This is being split into a few resources and we will cover a few of the questions at a time. 

This is a continuation of the resource Buyers Perspective. This section of the resource will focus on what the buyers are looking for, and what draws them to their creators. The original sampling of participants from the previous resources’ answers were recorded in the resource of full responses along with others who have submitted after the publishing of this resource. All numbers are reflective of the answers at the time of publishing.

To begin we asked them about our promotion strategy. More specifically we asked what about a creator’s ad draws them to choosing us as the one they want to purchase from. 

There were 51 answers to this question. There were a few NA’s and unsure’s, but we are keeping those out of our count. Y’all this is really important information for us to learn from and can be hugely beneficial.  

• 11 (21%) mentioned finding the following very important: positive reviews, upfront offerings and pricing, put together profiles, well structured menus, and shared payment options. We have discussed in the past how important all aspects, including our comment section, of our profile are. And here is a good reminder on the importance of a pinned menu.

• 12 (24%) said they look for: personality, authenticity, engagement on the platform (beyond just posting). Something that was clearly stated they were avoiding is a transactional experience. Captions are an amazing place to inject plenty of personality.

“I am admittedly an ass man, so a nice shot of the booty will usually catch my eye. But the big thing that will really draw my interest is a clever use of the caption on the post. Having a title that is clever and shows the sellers personality more than just being a thirst trap will absolutely catch my attention. For me, personality goes a long way, there are a lot of incredibly attractive women that post ads, but if you are just selling sex and nothing else, it’s not going to interest me. Sure, you need to have a few of those posts mixed in, I understand that many other buyers enjoy that…but I want to find a reason to work with the person themselves, and being funny or clever or witty with the title/caption triggers far more interest from me than anything else.”

“Beyond their looks I would say how the express themselves and how they communicate. Responsiveness and not feeling like its just a business transaction. If the post is just pictures and pricing I move on no matter how gorgeous the provider is. Same goes for responses to want ads, one or two word replies get skipped over completely.”

“A sense that they are not just solely looking at buyers as dollar signs and wallets. Also that they have a good sense of customer service and will not just treat you any kind of way after you send them full payment. There are many sexworkers like that who lack customer service and accountability on their end of how they run their business.”

• 28 (54%) were more focused on the content itself. They prioritized: quality, creative, and appealing content, our appearance, and their attraction to us. For some tips on optimizing ads, check this out.

“”Creativity and attention to detail are big giveaways of a serious seller who enjoys what they do, and look forward to a collaboration in my opinion. You can tell by poses they chose, clarity of image. I’ve seen plenty of sellers get creative with color schemes and quirky messages all good indicators and attention grabbers, that’s not to say a scammer won’t put forth the effort, but they usually don’t. I tend to research those sellers a bit more and think of ways we can team up on a wear and content.”

“In order of importance: Looks, verification, photo quality, kinkiness, pricing, level of activity, adequate description of services”

“Appealing Pictures/Quality”

In that question some responses touched on the importance of our profiles, but we figured we would dig a bit deeper and ask what the ‘green flags’ are they look for on a creator’s profile. 

There were 64 answers in total, one answer was unfortunately not applicable so we will be running off of the 63 viable responses received. This is another area that we really need to listen to the buyers in. This could be a fantastic resource to help us optimize our profiles.

• 11 (17%) mentioned the importance of having a pinned menu along side clear indications of services provided, limits, and pricing.

“A well written and easily accessible menu + bio of who they are and what they are selling, various pictures of themselves showing off their worn items for sale or examples of pictures/videos that can be requested. Recent or regular activity posting their services.”

“A well put menu, and constantly updated media.”

“In most cases based on the interaction I usually add an item or add on, but i budget for that. A layout of prices, terms, available items and services is usually what I look for. I completely understand that drawers are hidden in most cases due to pic thieves, that’s fine. So if that’s the case, pricing would at least help with the decision of reaching out.”” 

• 14 (22%) stated that account age and post history are the most important green flags. They wanted to see a well aged profile with plenty of karma (Reddit). They also were certain to mention the engagement is important, but spamming is a red flag. In regards to karma, it was specifically mentioned that our comment karma is just as important. We recently went over the importance of our comment section.

“Regular posting but not spamming lots of pages, been posting for at least a few months regularly. Sometimes nice to see a mini bio or q&a.”

“”Account age is consistent with Karma. Ex. Id account year is 6 months but 10,000 karma, I know they’re probably fake and karma farming. And if they have 6 years but only like 2,000 karma. I know not a lot of people visit their page, so something has to be off with service, product, or delivery.”

“”Active participation /posting in subs.” 

• 26 (41%) find it more important to see reviews and verification in large selling subs. They also wanted to see effort in making those reviews and our other pertinent information available to them.

“Verification, multiple posts, website & social media links” 

“Effort, linking to reviews, relevant replies to ads, a variety of posts (instead of repeating the same few), interacting with the community, showing unique personality”

“experienced, lot’s of reviews on r/FetishBuyerCommunity”

• 12 (19%) are more focused on the importance of a person behind the account. They want to see friendly, open communication with an emphasis on customer service. For a review on customer service in the SW industry, see here.

“I enjoy seeing a profile that looks like it belongs to a person, and not necessarily just from a creator/model. Mix up the selling posts with some posts that show some of your interests. Granted, I know that a lot of SFW or even non-selling NSFW subs can be very aggressive and hurtful to sellers, so it’s not a must have, but I do love seeing it. Another big one for me is the comment history. If you show that you engage with people that comment on your posts, if you engage with other posts in the community, if you are trying to offer advice and helping out wherever you can, all of that is really big and important to me, and will immediately give you a bump up in my eyes.”

“Reviews. Engagement with followers. A sense of what that seller’s personality is like. Photos that showcase physical features, and not just the obvious ones. When I’m interested in buying a custom, it’s the whole person I’m interested in seeing. I guess I’m saying Variety of poses and photo styles.”

“If they are interactive and if they respond in a timely manner”

The last group of respondents mentioned the importance of personality in a creator. But, what specifically are they looking for?

We saw 59 responses to this question. Remember, it is important to listen to our clients needs and wants in a creator’s personality, but we absolutely must be staying true to ourselves!

• 15 (25%) mentioned wanting playfulness, charm, flirty and friendliness. 

“Amicable! Sometimes the terse replies really don’t make the sale feel genuine. Someone who enjoys their craft. Some do it for just money and that is completely okay, but even the most minor connection in conversation makes the panties frameable art in my book”

“I look for a humorous, lighthearted attitude and a genuine interest in fetish and kink.”

“Friendliness and enthusiasm.”

• 19 (32%) were more focused on communication skills, response times, professionalism (while maintaining the connection), etc. Basically this group wanted to see fantastic customer service. 

“Friendly, honest, good communication”

“It’s fun when the creator is authentic and asks questions. I tend to come to creators with a good idea of what I want, and the best custom experiences I have are when creators ask questions to clarify what I want. It’s also always nice when a creator treats me like someone they’d like to work with again. Checking in, etc. it’s always nice!”

“Good communicator with a good attitude. Seems to enjoy doing this. Keeps their word. Seems to enjoy, and puts some thought/effort into the custom pics. And ships in a timely way.”

• 25 (42%) focus on friendliness, approachability, and someone willing to be engaged in the conversation.

“I’m mostly interested in seeing that they are a real person with interests. I mostly don’t want the creator to appear to be just a sexual gratification robot, or someone that is just here to treat each order as strictly a transaction. Show me that you enjoy meeting people and building connections. Show me that you have other interests and other ways to build a connection that will all add up to make the experience even better. Yes you are providing a service, but the more personal and intimate that can be for me, it will lead to a much better overall experience. Also…be real with me, be straight with me, share your ideas, offer advice on what you think will make everything better, provide your input. You as creators have far more experience and know how to deliver good content…plus you know what you are good at, so you know what will come out looking better. I very much believe that if you are invested in the idea, if you feel like you can make it your own while also delivering on my fantasy, that will 100% show in the end and will make the content so much better. We both should enjoy the process.”

“First and foremost friendly, one or two word answers put me off. Plus playful and cheeky.”

“Most often it’s just simple kindness, but also love it when they get excited to create the idea I have in mind. It really adds to the excitement.”

Now we have some concept of what attracts our clients to us, we wanted to ask about their experiences. We asked if they could remember a fantastic interaction with a creator, and why they found it to be fantastic. 

We saw 58 responses to this question. Please note: many creators were mentioned by name on this question. All usernames will be redacted to protect others’ anonymity. 

• 11 (19%) defined a fantastic interaction based on the quality of content and effort they received. 

“I will give you a few examples of some, the very first seller I reached out absolutely spoiled me rotten. I received updates throughout the wear in the form of pictures, videos and messages about her activities. she was a great communicator, super fun super sweet and to this day we continue to have a great relationship ; I purchase from her regularly.”

“I contacted the creator in the same manner as usual, giving them an idea of what I was looking for and asking permission so elaborate and send samples. Pre- production discussion went great, they sent a price which seemed kind of high but that’s okay, I paid and we moved forward. Was told a time frame which worked fine for me.

Then I didn’t hear from them for several weeks after planned completion date. I was super anxious but I messaged them regarding the issue. The seller had everything already made and finished but just forgot to send. (Checked the exif on the files to see date created matches agreed time frame). Mistakes happen completely understandable. I do have to say that even with the mixup and added wait time, this creator did the absolute best work ive gotten so far. Absolutely professional level content and as soon as I got the media, my feeling of price being a little high had shifted to a feeling of “I didn’t pay them enough”

“The product was amazing and custom video was perfect”

• 27 (46%) found open, honest and personable communication to be what they are really looking for. This group also saw an importance in creators enjoying what they do.

“Absolutely!! She was super personable and made sure she understood every detail as I liked. And delivered it when she said.”

“There are plenty of fantastic interactions with sellers. Great communication, reliable turnaround time, they weren’t pushing for the sale, they brought their own ideas to the table or asked questions to make it a better product, and generally just nice to chat with while working together.”

“Three creators come to mind, and I’ve had 5+ customs with each. REDACTED are all exemplary creators. They ask clarifying questions, incorporate feedback, and nail everything that I ask for. It’s evident that they read everything I send and ask them for. The delivery time is also usually very quick, which is certainly my preference. Communication is great throughout, particularly with REDACTED (that’s not to say communication is bad REDACTED*, who have the art of customs down to a science and will deliver something great).”*

• 20 (34%) focused in on the interaction between them and the creator. They stated that because the interaction was amazing, it even made the content itself better. 

“Oh good lort like 90% of my interactions with sellers are fantastic. I have no idea if sellers are more willing to interact with me because I’ve been in the community for a long time and I have extensive history with commenting and reviewing, but I tend to be able to reach out to a seller and just have friendly conversations with them. I would say the big key for me is treating everyone like a person. It’s not all about sex and getting off, I like to know the people that I work with, and getting to spend time building that connection is always a treat. I think so long as you are kind and respectful, most creators are willing to engage in conversation with someone, partly because getting to know the buyer gives them more insight into what they like and allows the seller to better provide service for them, but I also think a lot of sellers just like the human interaction as well. Also…it can be hard to find people that will understand what they go through with providing fetish services, so having someone that understands and relates and is willing to listen and offer advice/perspective from a buyers point of view can be helpful. Plus I’m just a chatty person and like to talk about anything and everything and also like to listen to other peoples stories, and I like to think that I provide a nice safe space for people to open up and know they will be listened to and respected.”

“The best interaction for me is an ongoing one with a seller who I talk to almost every day. It’s a relationship and rapport that has been built over time and certainly didn’t happen overnight: it required accountability and respect on BOTH sides: first and foremost, it required myself to be a responsible buyer that accepted the cost of services and respected the sellers time by responding and paying promptly, interacting with respect and being understanding when things didn’t always go perfect. Simply put, I take care of her and she takes care of me. The result has been a genuine friendship that I cherish to this day.”

That is all of the questions we are covering in this resource. As a reminder, all answers submitted can be found here. The mod teams at r/Creators_Spicy_Tea and r/FetishBuyersCommunity would once again like to thank all of the participants who helped us by responding!